As all of our residents are cognitively impaired, we understand how devastating it is for you to work with your loved one’s cognitive deficits caused by Alzheimer’s disease or another disease process.
While hundreds of books and thousands of articles have been written on caring for someone with Alzheimer’s, I want to touch on one simple concept today.
Writer Amy Carmichael’s poem of the same name ends with the famous line “For in acceptance lies peace.” Acceptance of another’s short comings, or our own, as something that may not be able to be changed or fixed is so very difficult for all of us. But in this case, the deficits your loved one has are almost certainly not reversible.
Once we accept their new normal, we are free from the bondage of trying to change someone who cannot change. We are free to love them with an unfailing love. We begin to grow, and as our inner spirit grows, we find something deep inside that we know as peace. It is not the calming peace that follows the passage of a storm, but is peace within the storm.
Peace brings patience, and patience brings perseverance in answering that question or gently providing that same direction time and again. And this perseverance is love.
Our prayers are with you today to find peace in your day, in your circumstances, in your time of need.